Marc: Maybe I should call you tonight. I don’t know.
Jo Annimal: I gotta go make a pot of coffee soon.
Jo Annimal: I’ll most likely be on the internet talking to Barry.
Marc: 80% of the time there’s no answer.
Marc: Oh, great, it’s a Barry now.
Jo Annimal: Yes, yes it is.
Marc: Next month, it’ll be Wally, or some shit.
Jo Annimal: xD
Jo Annimal: Wally, uhm, no.
Marc: Women and their pathological co-dependency.
Marc: I don’t understand it.
Jo Annimal: Yeah, well, this one’s actually pretty good.
Marc: Right.
Jo Annimal: Stable job, car, home.
Jo Annimal: Not a douchebag, that’s always a plus.
Marc: That’s what you said about Donnie, and Seth, and so on.
Jo Annimal: No I didn’t.
Jo Annimal: Donnie nor Seth were stable or dependable, and they weren’t responsible adults.
Marc: Uh, yeah, you did.
Marc: They were all better than the one before.
Jo Annimal: Yeah, well, I’m not blinding myself with this one.
Jo Annimal: He actually isn’t bad at all.
Jo Annimal: Except that he lives…idk, 800 miles away. xD
Marc: How long have you known him?
Jo Annimal: Mm, since I was 13.
Marc: Oh, for fuck’s sake.
Marc: Go make your coffee.
Jo Annimal: Don’t be a douche.
Marc: I’m not being a douche.
Jo Annimal: He’s really nice..
Marc: I’m sure he is, but he’s still HUMAN.
Marc: You’ve been fucked over so many times over such a short period of time, romantic relationships should be the LAST fucking thing on your mind.
Marc: But, no, you just keep slitting your own throat over and over again, because this guy is so much better and so much sweeter than the last.
Jo Annimal: I’m just trying to find someone, Marc.
Marc: Take a few minutes and really think about it, how well do you really know anyone?
Marc: You’re only 17!
Jo Annimal: I KNOW BUT STILL!
Marc: If you don’t find your soul mate by the time you turn 40, then be concerned.
Jo Annimal: It’s not the greatest thing in the world to be alone, alright? It’s not the greatest thing in the world to watch your friends be happy with someone else, it’s not.
Marc: Then you should find something else. A hobby or something.
Marc: I hate seeing you do this to yourself all over again.
Jo Annimal: How do you know that this one is going to disappoint me?
Marc: What are the chances THIS one is going to be everyting you’ve wanted?
Jo Annimal: I don’t know..
Marc: How do you know HE will stay with you when the shit really hits the fan?
Jo Annimal: I DONT know, but I’m taking the fucking chance.
Marc: That’s your problem, you’re always investing everything you have in one person without considering the circumstances.
Marc: Eventually, you are going to drive yourself insane doing this.
Marc: Always looking at everything on the surface, and making your call based on that alone.
Marc: And you don’t understand the front guys put up just to get a woman in their pants.
Marc: The charm, the sweetness, 99 times out of 100 it isn’t even real.
Jo Annimal: I know that.
Marc: Stop doing this to yourself, please.
Marc: You did it with me, you did it with Andrew, Donnie, and Seth.
What if he’s right? I just want someone who I can spend time with, share life with, care about, who cares about me, who I can POSSIBLY some day love. My God why do I have to care so much about others’ opinions? Someone shoot me, this is getting bad.
Just Jo Ann
Just That.
5 responses so far ↓
Andrew // October 7, 2008 at 7:25 pm |
Ouch, that hurts to be compared to those guys. I really hope I wasn’t like that. =/
seneca // October 9, 2008 at 6:50 am |
Hi Honey,
YOU are a riot!
It is STARTLING to see your pretty and gentle colors of pink, blue, gold, and green in stark contrast to the words of the title just beneath!
I LOVE the name “Jo Annimal”. It so fits this piece!
Just one request. When you’re full of emotion, please write a post. They are wonderful!
What is Marc’s interest? Does he want you for himself?
You MUST date different guys right now. How can you be expected to know a good one from a bad one unless you’ve met a bunch, fallen in love a bunch, and been hurt a bunch? You must learn this stuff yourself.
Sure! Some guys just want sex and lie to you. You must meet all types so you can tell the difference.
Honey, the ONLY way to find the right guy is to TRY. So what if you fail!
So what if you get over-invested in someone! You’ll get hurt, and eventually learn to protect yourself!
Now is the time to be dating and learning.
GO FOR IT, BABY!!!
I wish you could find a way to save my ass! I’m getting hurt way too much!
Love,
Mike
Mrs B // October 9, 2008 at 4:28 pm |
JoAnn
I have been reading your blog for a while now. When I found it, I went back and read all your posts. I am amazed at your talent with words and writing and the deep thoughts you are able to express. I have thought many times about writing to you but didn’t know how you would respond to advice from a stranger. Your reaction to the comments from Marc were encouraging, you argued with him but are able to ask yourself if he might be right. I think he might be.
There are good men out there, wonderful men! But you have to be the kind of woman that attracts them, and I don’t mean physically. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. You have to know what you believe in and have a vision of what you want your future to be. Ask yourself what happens after you find the person that is “the one”.
I assume at 17 that you have at least one or two years of school left. If I could go back to that time in my life I would try to concentrate more on becoming someone than finding someone. Find out what you believe, develop the talents that you have and really consider going on to college. I believe you have the ability to do well in college.
You do not have to fall in love or even date a bunch of guys to know a good one from a bad one. There is another way to live besides going from hurt to hurt!
In the past I have taught Bible classes for teen age girls and have started putting some of the booklets and weekly handouts on the web for others. I plan to add more soon. Mostly, it is a collection of quotes. They are free to download and, since you seem to be a thought seeker, you might enjoy them.
I have four grown sons who are very good men, three are married and they have given me a good idea over the years about the kind of girls they were looking for. If you would like to write to me, my contact information is on the site.
By the way I love your poem, Twilight.
I wish you the best of life.
seneca // October 15, 2008 at 3:29 pm |
My Dear Mrs. B,
You want Jo Ann “to concentrate more on becoming someone than finding someone”, even though you state you did not do that yourself. When we set goals for others that we ourselves are not able to attain, those goals are not realistic. Furthermore, when you reject “finding someone”, you forget the passions coursing through a 17-year-old’s veins.
We must be realistic, Mrs. B.
I find Jo Ann to be entirely realistic and I applaud her for learning to be spare with her charms. She learned that through experience, not through reading.
I do believe in reading. Aristotle tells us we must study the great thinkers to be happy. However, experience is the greatest teacher.
I have been reading the classic texts formally in night school since 1992. Part of the course work does include the Bible. Augustine was a Plato-ist. Most of the charm of Christianity is from Augustine’s reading of Plato and Aristotle. Other than the Sermon on the Mount, there is nothing in Christianity that cannot be found 400 years earlier in the ancient Greeks.
You may find the source texts more satisying than the Bible, as I do.
You annoy me with “hurt to hurt”. No one proposes that. I propose that, by fully experiencing dating, she will be able to find the right guy. One cannot find the right guy by reading a book or looking at biblical quotes. One must date.
Most importantly, Mrs. B, those who are out to save others are the ones in most need of being saved. I don’t mean 99% of them. I mean 100%. I suggest you look within.
Think of Jo Ann as an equal. I have found her to be superior to me in understanding certain issues. I honor her.
Seneca
justjoann // October 15, 2008 at 8:23 pm |
Mikey,
I am really glad you wrote that comment to that woman, for I was going to, but my words would not have been so respectful.
Love,
Jo Ann.